Tough Twenties?

Do you remember your twenties? Or are in your twenties just right now? 

I decided to write this post because I realized a lot of people feel a bit lost or overwhelmed around that age like me, but that is okay. You will find your way. It is okay to take time to figure out what you actually want to do in life.

Most of us have been in school for the majority of our (pre-adult) life. Although sometimes (or maybe loads of times) we didn´t like school to much, it gave our day a structure. Besides that school takes quiet some time out of the day, it is a huge part of our life, for years and years, and all of a sudden it is over and you need to know what to do next. But how are you suppose to know? It can be hard, right?  Especially when it seems everyone else except you knows what to study, where to move, what job to look forward to.. If you are struggling with that, I totally understand. I get it. But I also know, you are not the only one feeling this way. Yes, there are people who know exactly what the want to study and what job field they want to work in since they are ten years old, but that´s most likely the minority. 

When I got out of school, I had a plan and I knew that I want to go to university and what I want to study… or at least I thought I knew. First of all, I went to Australia for a few months (check out my travel posts for that). It was an amazing time. You don´t have any commitments, no school anymore, you are basically free! I can only recommend to everyone, take a gap year or maybe even two, even if you seem to have found your dream job already. You gain valuable life experience, Travel can teach you a lot. It can help you to get to know yourself better and therefore figure out what is good for you, what you want in life. If you are not a big traveler or you just don´t want to be far away from home, there are other opportunities to take a gap year. You could do internships, volunteer or just get a student job to earn some money. You could even use the time to just go to your “local” university and listen to some courses. ( I am not sure if you can do this in every country for free, but it is worth checking.)

When I got back from Australia I applied for the universities I had chosen, but to be honest I wasn´t really sure anymore. In the end I didn´t get into the courses I wanted and I saw it as a sign and took another gap year, well actually half a gap year trying to figure out what to do. I went to London for two months which didn´t turn out to be right for me. I went back home and  mainly worked and then I found a new BA-program which seemed to combine all the subjects I am interested in.

So it took me almost 2 years to figure out what I am really interested in and what I want to do and I am not the only one around my friends who needed that time to find the right fit. It is totally normal and okay to take this time. Don´t let the society or anyone led you into thinking you have to make a decision the day you graduate, because you don´t. You decide when you make this decision and you know why? It is your life and no one else´s, remember that.

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Believe in yourself!


  1. I’m 28 and I’m still learning new things about myself. It can take years for people to find their true calling in life. But it has been a fun journey for me.